Now I’m no relationship expert, but it is absolutely essential that you invest in your spouse’s financial success. Enough of being the only one who controls all the resources. Use some of it instead to build income streams for your spouse so that her dependence on you for all her needs and wants significantly reduces.
The truth is everyone has needs and wants which require financial resources to meet them. No one likes to ask their spouse for money to buy one thing or the other always. This can wear out the person providing. The dependent partner may recourse to lies and manipulations, or even blackmail to get the money.
There have even been instances of providing partners who hide their salary information and financial dealings from their depending spouses, thus misleading them about the state of their finances. Hiding info like this from you spouse can affect one’s marriage.
In marriage is a union of two people who differ about money. Opposing views are a function of their education, backgrounds, environment and religious beliefs. Some like to spend while others prefer to save. Because differences exist it makes sense to earn your own money so they can manage it the way they want. If husband and wife control reasonable resources then each party can spend based on how they see fit, thus making money less of an issue.
In many homes today money is the issue. Disagreements and arguments about money is one of the major reasons for divorce. It is common place to have differences on the way money is spent. With the man being the breadwinner in most homes he might be torn between giving his wife everything she asks for which can lead to abuse; or not giving into most of her requests which might cause her to manipulate and blackmail him. None of these situations are ideal which makes it of the utmost importance that the wife earns money for her upkeep.
The moment your wife starts earning good money it affects her self esteem positively. A good woman will take from what she earns to support her husband if he faces challenges financially. There is a huge benefit when both parties are earning which reduces the pressure on the breadwinner.
Supposing the man loses his income or is suddenly unable to earn anymore. A financially empowered woman can easily step into his shoes so that the family does not suffer. A non-empowered woman is the exact opposite. She will have to run from pillar to post taking on a role she has little or no experience handling.
This is why I always counsel men that your wife is should be your protégé. For women I emphasise that your husband is your mentor. Teach your wife all you know about business and assist her to run her own business.
Running her own business prepares her to take over your business when you are no longer around. A spouse is the best person to commit your business interests to because she is close to her husband. This makes her best positioned to continue building upon your legacy and taking care of what you have left behind. Don’t allow your family suffer when you are no longer available by shielding your dealings from her.
Now my position is premised upon the fact that many men did their due diligence before settling on a spouse. This is why it is more important to focus on a woman’s character traits than physical attributes. You do not want the fact that she now earns good money to go to her head. A good woman would not lose her values when she controls wealth because it will not change who she is.
I urge every man to use some of his resources to invest in a worthwhile business opportunity for his spouse. Know your wife’s gifts and talents, passions and pursuits and set up a viable business that she can manage. Some men give their wives top positions in their organisations which is commendable. The key is for her to manage something and earn her own income.
Considering that she has responsibilities to members of her own family makes it necessary for her to earn. There is a limit to what requests she can make to her husband with regards to his in-laws. Both can use their resources to meet the needs of their family members.
Empowering women is scriptural. In fact the Holy Bible promotes the concept of a “Virtuous Woman” highlighted in the thirty-first chapter of Proverbs. A virtuous woman is extremely productive. She is not only beautiful but possesses the attributes of being hardworking, loving, kind, prudent, diligent and supportive.
I want you to start today to empower your spouse financially. Your marriage will be better off for it. A successful woman’s husband receives more respect than People tend to respect the spouse of a successful woman compared to one who is not. Invest in your spouse today and receive high returns.